Call me old-fashioned, but I remember a time, growing up, when people who intentionally set out to harm other people were looked at as criminals, insane, and not to be welcomed into society.
I’m not saying a lot of harm didn’t go on, but it wasn’t considered something the perpetrator had done a lot of thinking about -s/he was clearly an anti-social outcast.
And if we were to get wind of some awful domestic abuse, some woman-beating or child molesting, it would be a great horror, and certainly wouldn’t be thought of as something the perpetrator had chosen to do, as simply as s/he chose which pair of shoes to wear that day. There would obviously be something terribly wrong with hir.
So, when I read this tweet:
I take it upon myself to play my role as a son, father, uncle & man. I choose not to rape or abuse any woman for as long as I live.
I was pretty aghast.
We harm other living beings all day, every day – for food, or heedlessly crushing underfoot, or in a motor vehicle accident. But none of these things is the kind of choice we make consciously.
Come on, humanity. If we were half the species we claim to be, raping and abusing “any woman” would be way out of the question as a choice.
So why does this – presumably ordinary – dude feel it incumbent upon him to take this holy oath, and encourage others to do the same, before his monolithic deity, that he will choose not to do these things?
We have failed, and failed dismally, if not raping and not abusing women is considered a choice we can make.
We have failed to bring up our children in Love and sanity.
We have failed to live upon this Earth as we should. Look at all the other animals and plants.
It should never, ever, under any freaking circumstances, even enter our pointy little minds to do these things.
Human Beings, I give up with you.